Did you ever notice the point in childbirth when the women says…enough, no more…I am done! So, she stops…temporally.
Deep down she knows she doesn’t have a choice, but the effort is exhausted.
What happens, her cheering squad pushes her forward, moving her past this point. This is also the place in every hero journey when the hero gives up. He can’t find the spirit or cause to fight anymore. He knows he has too, but he is done. So what happens?
Again, here comes the cheering squad! He finds divine insight or wisdom usually from an outside force that connects deep within to help him conquer this fear. His fear breaks down; confidence and determination go way up. The theme is the same; he has to fight his inner fear and break down the walls. When he does, he always wins.
This place of stopping at this wall is what I call ..the “no effort zone”.
This is an internal wall of every excuse possible, your fears, weakness, beliefs and negative excuses personified. It is the mirror of the worst critic of all..YOU. These excuses have been built into your subconscious over years and years of programming. This wall is friggin solid. Sitting on top of it is YOUR proverbial devil on the shoulder.
Most people get to their wall, and walk away. It is the stopping point and it is a different stopping point for every individual. The interesting part is that we KNOW we have to break it down and walk through, but we have build it up so strong, and so solid that we can’t see through it. We assume we know what is in this zone by what we built in our head. Basically we are judging a wall by it’s exterior.
So, most of us take camp right outside the wall.
A little hot chocolate to share with that non-stop-talking-annoying shoulder devil who just reinforces and re-infuses our already negative thoughts and beliefs. Really, he should go into advertisement..he is that good!
So, when you are sitting there with him, who knows, maybe you can create another awesome excuse together. Cozy.
- It is hard
- It is scary
- Is it really worth it?
- I am not smart enough, good enough.
- what “if” it doesn’t work out?
- I’ll do it when…. more time, money, less tired, better circumstances
- I am gonna go watch TV, read, play with the dog.
- What is the purpose?
So, there you sit… up against your “No effort zone” wall. AGAIN!
One day you will realize that to get to your goal, you WILL eventually have go through this zone. There is NO other detour or way around it.
The internal knowing that you need to continue can push you forward. Just like our mom at the top of this post.
Here are a few other suggestions…
Be like the kitty…try. Then try again. Small effort can create big change.
Get a support group of people who have been at their own wall and have crumpled it. They will make you accountable, which create action. They can be your cheering squad when you plop your back again that wall.
Get a coach (cough, hint, cough)
Ask yourself, are these beliefs really mine? Where did they come from? Family, friends, culture, bad experiences, or were they ingrained from years of programming? You just might be surprised “who” that little shoulder devil mimics. Does his voice sound familiar?
Back up and ram it with all you got. Go from fear to force.
Trust and KNOW with all your heart and conviction that your intention WILL be manifested. On the other side.
Be in the present zone..fears are based the past or future. What is real is now, what you imagine is what you a feeding off of which may not be real. Stop imagining. You may break that wall down and find bliss. Expect the best….
“The “no effort zone” devolves with conscious effort.”
My gift to you… a large hammer.